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| Even very ugly people can make friends. I don't think it's because of your looks. There are 3 likely areas that I think are where your problem lies:1) You are too pickyIf 'friends' mean only hunks and gay, then you are restricting your social circle. Perhaps you should look into other social groups rather than gay voluntary groups only. You may engage in sporting, religious or arts activities. Or perhaps there are some gays who aren't hunks but who want to befriend you but you don't reciprocate their kindness. In short, you should open up and not pick friends. As long as they are comfortable to socialize with, try to befriend them even though they may not be cute, or gay. 2) You are too focused on others rather than yourselfThis may be due to a sense of insecurity that directs your attention to others' responses excessively. If someone doesn't remember your name, invite you to their parties, return your calls, reply your SMS, etc, don't read too much. There are 1001 reasons why people might have missed you out somehow. But that doesn't have to lower your self-worth. If you allow your self-worth to be determined by such responses, then you'd certainly find a handful of 'reasons' why you are worth less. Instead, you should focus on yourself. Improve your personal qualities or attractiveness. This is based on the principle of Cause & Effect. If you want yourself to be attractive, then you must possess those qualities that attract others first, right? No amount of wishing, worrying or self-condemnation can enhance your qualities. In fact, you may lower your attractiveness by worrying and reading too much. So, in short, if you want yourself to be attractive, simply focus on YOU: improve on those qualities of YOURSELF that may enhance your attractiveness. I mean those areas that you CAN change. There's no point in WISHING to look like some celebrity. But the scope and degree of change for many aspects of attractiveness are big. You may slim down, remove aging signs on your face, tan your skin, buy better clothes, etc. You may pick up public speaking, interpersonal communication, etc. skills. You may upgrade your qualifications. You may train on smiling more attractively by looking into the mirror. 3) You lack socializing skillsIt takes skills and time to make friends. There is a book called "The Friendship Factors" that you might search for in the library. You must learn to make 1 friend at a time just as you finish one task on hand at a time. Having too many 'friends' reduces the time and attention that you can devote to each, making it harder to reinforce the friendship. But if you have what it takes to be a playboy, and you choose to become one, then we are talking not about friend-making, but flirting, in which case you need another set of skills. You want to multitask as well as you could to makan as many pieces of meat as you can makan.  But if you are talking about true friendship, then you really must learn to do it one at a time. It takes time, attention, effort, etc. to build up each successful, fulfilling and long-lasting friendship.Lets list out some characters that turns ppl off:1) BoastfulAlways wan to win in ALL situations. If another person is lucky, he'll boast that he's luckier. Is a person is unlucky, he will also wanna brag about how unlucky he can be.2) SelfishAll he think off is himself n will not be considerate.3) InsensitiveThis person also 'thinks' that they're straight-forward. In fact, they just plain insensitive. They will speak their mind like nobody biz and will affect in hurting another person's feeling.4) Bad habitsPeople who's so heck care that, they unshamefully kept digging their nose, farting...etc, but thought that it's funny!5) Spoil spot / Cold Water SplasherWhatever u share wif them, the will wanna have their opinion. Mostly negatives. When ask for a solution, they will keep quite and comes out wif thousands excuse. 6) Over DefensiveThat watever he does, he will shout "I'm always right" And when I'm wrong, it's definitely becos of other ppl. They will argue n argue their way over small mistakes they made. This kinda person will not learn anything in the end.Can help add somemore? | | |
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You're seeing what you want to see, trying to find pieces of evidence that may suggest that he is interested in you and you're interpreting this 'evidence' with a lot of imagination to portray the idea that he may be interested in you.
Like hello, have you ever had a guy woo you before? You know, ask you out for a date? Buy you flowers? Take you for dinner at a nice restaurant? Buy you nice gifts? Obviously not. Cos that's how you will know a guy is interested in you - when he makes an effort to let you know that he is interested, chocolates, red roses, dinner at fine restaurants etc.
1. He helps you out - he's just a friendly helpful guy. He is probably helpful to everyone else too, so you're not different or special in any way.
2. He smile at you? Does he smile at others as well? If he does, then that's just the way he is, it doesn't mean a thing.
3. He peeks at your MSN? He's a kaypoh, he's bored, he's boh liao.
4. Cozying up to you means nothing. If he touches your cock or if he tries to kiss you, then I'll believe he's interested in you.
5. He doesn't feel comfortable looking at straight porn? He's just shy or embarrassed about looking at porn in general, most people are. It doesn't make him gay.
6. Cooking and puppies? What planet are you on? Can't a straight guy cook or like dogs?
He's definitely NOT interested in you. Otherwise you wouldn't be writing here, compiling this list of totally random bullshit. If he is interested in you, he would've bought you flowers and asked you out already.
Honey, you've got to learn to control your wishful thinking and get in touch with reality. As they say, IN YOUR DREAMS. Forget him and move on.
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